D-Day and the Rhetoric of Grief

In On Grief and Grieving: Finding the Meaning of Grief Through the Five Stages of Loss by Elisabeth Kubler-Ross and David Kessler one reads the following conclusion:

“The time after a significant loss is full of the feelings that we usually have spent a lifetime trying not to feel. Sadness, anger, and emotional pain sit on our doorstep with a deeper range than we have ever felt. Their intensity is beyond our normal range of human emotions. Our defenses are no match for the power of the loss. We stand alone with no precedent or emotional repertoire for this kind of loss. We have never lost a mother, father, spouse, or child before. To know these feelings and meet them for the first time brings up responses from draining to terrifying and everything in between. We don’t know that these foreign, unwelcome, intense feelings are part of the healing process. How can anything that feels so bad ever help to heal us? ”

“With the power of grief comes much of the fruits of our grief and grieving. We may still be in the beginning of our grief, and yet, it winds its way from the feelings of anticipating a loss to the beginnings of reinvolvement. It completes an intense cycle of emotional upheaval. It doesn’t mean we forget; it doesn’t mean we are not revisited by the pain of loss. It does mean we have experienced life to its fullest, complete with the cycle of birth and death. We have survived loss. We are allowing the power of grief and grieving to help us to heal and to live with the one we lost.”

“That is the Grace of Grief.

That is the Miracle of Grief.

That is the Gift of Grief.”

Watching today’s ceremonies marking the 65th anniversary of the D-Day invasion I was struck by the inadequacy of the speeches by Presidents Obama and Sarcozy and by Prime Ministers Harper and Brown.

If indeed there are “fruits of our grief and grieving” they surely must reside in the stories of the veterans themselves. As the television cameras turned from the somber presidents and prime ministers to display the surviving old men of D-Day, some of them in wheelchairs, many with canes, I found that I wanted to hear from them–if not “instead of” the politicians, then certainly beside them. Only those who have lived with the arc of grief and grieving, what Kubler Ross calls the “intense cycle of emotional upheaval” can truly tell us what it means to discover and embrace reinvolvement with the world.

President Obama does have personal connections with D-Day and the battles that followed. His grandfather Stanley Dunham marched with General George Patton’s army. The president incorporated abbreviated stories of American soldiers in his speech. Yet only veterans can tell us of the human cost of defending freedom and of the struggle to make something productive from grieving. Surely in these times when America is experiencing difficulties serving its wounded warriors we need to hear from those who have fought to live with the power of grief and grieving to help us heal.

 

Stephen Kuusisto

Inclusive Education for All

This article appears in full in the Denver Post. The excerpt is from The Inclusion Daily Express.

Denver Public Schools Puts Preschoolers With Disabilities Into Inclusive Classes
(Denver Post)
June 4, 2009

DENVER, COLORADO– [Excerpt] At first, Patricia Valdez was not sure she wanted her 4-year-old daughter, Arianna, in a full-day preschool classroom with typically developing children.

Doctors suspect Arianna may have autism, her mother said. The girl’s speech is delayed, and she sometimes has trouble communicating.

Until this year, Denver Public Schools would have placed Arianna with other preschool kids with disabilities in a self-contained classroom staffed by special-education teachers and therapists.

This year the district tried out a pilot program to include 50 kids with disabilities in six of its preschools, and Arianna is in one of them.

“It has speeded her up,” said Valdez as she dropped off Arianna at Trevista at Horace Mann, in northwest Denver. “She’s made great improvements. She knows her colors and numbers. She is starting to express herself more and is not all blank.”

Entire article:
DPS puts preschoolers with disabilities into inclusive classes

http://www.denverpost.com/technology/ci_12498084

 

S.K.

Why the Novel Isn't Dead "Exactly"

 

In his memoir Point to Point Navigation Gore Vidal argues that “the novelist” is no longer a public figure of any notoriety. One may say that Gore Vidal has earned the right to say such things for his literary career has spanned an age in which both novelists and their art have passed from considerable attention and into the shadows. I like what Mr. Vidal has to say about how this diminution of the novelist’s fame has almost nothing to do with literary merit though I will say more about this “on the other side”. Here is what Mr. Vidal says:

“Recently I observed to a passing tape recorder that I was once a famous novelist. When assured, politely, that I was still known and read, I explained myself. I was speaking, I said, not of me personally but of a category to which I once belonged that has now ceased to exist. I am still here but the category is not. To speak today of a famous novelist is like speaking of a famous cabinetmaker or speedboat designer. Adjective is inappropriate to noun. How can a novelist be famous–no matter how well known he may be personally to the press?–if the novel itself is of little consequence to the civilized, much less to the generality? The novel as teaching aid is something else, but hardly famous.”

“There is no such thing as a famous novelist now, any more than there is such a thing as a famous poet. I use the adjective in the strict sense. According to authority, to be famous is to be much talked about, usually in a favorable way. It is as bleak and inglorious as that. Yet thirty years ago, novels were actually read and discussed by those who did not write them or, indeed, even read them. A book could be famous then but today’s public seldom mentions a book unless, like The Da Vinci Code, it is being metamorphosed into a faith-challenging film.”

“Contrary to what many believe, literary fame has nothing to do with excellence or true glory or even with a writer’s position in the syllabus of a university’s English Department, itself as remote to the Agora as Academe’s shadowy walk. For any artist, fame is the extent to which the Agora finds interesting his latest work. If what he has written is known only to a few other practitioners, or to enthusiasts (Faulkner compared lovers of literature to dog breeders, few in number but passionate to the point of madness on the subject of bloodlines), then the artist is not only not famous, he is irrelevant to his time, the only time that he has; nor can he dream of eager readers in a later century as did Stendhal. If novels and poems fail to interest the Agora today, by the year 3091 such artifacts will not exist at all except as objects of monkish interest. This is neither a good nor a bad thing. It is simply not a famous thing.”

Vidal reminds us of the serpentine intersection of technology, history and the discernment or apprehension of the public mind in the making of noteworthy culture. Between 1850 and 1970 the novel was a widely discussed public “thing” –a “famous thing” as Vidal would have it but that “FT-ness” was in no small measure a reflection of improvements in printing technology. The novel was serialized in inexpensive popular magazines that were in turn widely read and swapped in public which is to say that the art form was the Agora’s currency. But when widely read coffee table magazines vanished in the mid 1970’s the novel immediately went on life support where it remains. Its not that novels and poems fail to interest the Agora today its that the Agora no longer has a mere handful of culturally dominant and easy to find delivery systems that present literary writing in every living room and coffee shop. (A notable exception is represented by the work of Oprah Winfrey who has used  her popular daytime TV show as a pulpit for good literature. But even Oprah can’t save the novel when the Agora is distracted and when it turns distractedly to more TV since that same exhausted Agora has almost nothing to read.) Where in America will you find literary magazines at the supermarket check out line? (I’m not talking about progressive food co-ops in university towns where you might find the latest issue of The Utne Reader.) 

“Ah, but Mr. K,” you may conceivably ask, “How come romance and thriller writers sell tons of books?” To which I would (presuming I heard you) reply that selling books isn’t the issue. Books are still being sold and read. I know several contemporary novelists who are selling books including Russell Banks, Ethan Canin, and Michael Cunningham. The point that Mr. Vidal is making is that writers are no longer culturally recognizable figures because the Agora isn’t being introduced to them the way its introduced to sports figures or politicians or notable scoundrels. Television used to look to the magazines and the press for cultural guidance but it no longer does so, indeed it cannot do so when the magazines and newspapers have gone the way of the telegraph and when the blogs and Zines have not been wholly successful at taking the central place of popular magazines that once sold fiction to the public. (Let us recall that Ernest Hemingway was famous because of Life Magazine long before Hollywood got ahold of him. In the mid 20th century Life Magazine  was the equivalent of TV and the internet and in turn it was a machine for introducing Americans to novelists.)

Well okay we all know this –we who love books or who deign to write books or at least profess such arcane interests. We also know that the novel is not going away for the art is not “of little consequence to the civilized, much less to the generality” as Vidal would have it. The appetite for good writing remains undiminished in America. Of course it does.

Yet by God the enfeebled spotlight still trails the contestants of reality TV shows and try though you may, you will not discover novelists on The Tonight Show. In fact I predict that Conan O’Brien will be as much a failure in this regard as was Jay Leno. In Mr. O’Brien’s case this will be all the more disappointing given his Harvard background. (I do not flatter myself imagining Mr. O’Brien will see my blog.) The point is clear though: TV needs to step up and reintroduce Americans to writers even as it tosses us paste for the eating and its vinegar for drink.

 

S.K.

Is There Any Dignity Today at the Colosseum?

 

The following article is excerpted from Inclusion Daily Express. Our contention at POTB is that all contestants on performance based television programming are not performatively value neutral like the people on a sing-along in your front parlor but are instead presented as gladiators. It is no surprise that in such environs both art and humanity are throttled.

 

S.K. 

 

Should TV Show Have Treated Susan Boyle Differently?
(The Telegraph)
June 1, 2009
LONDON, ENGLAND– [Excerpt] The makers of Britain’s Got Talent are facing a possible Ofcom inquiry into their handling of Susan Boyle after she was admitted to the Priory clinic amid fears for her mental health.

Producers only provided a counsellor for Boyle at the beginning of last week, despite the strains of the media spotlight mounting far earlier in the show.

The 48-year-old, who suffers from learning [intellectual] disabilities as a result of being starved of oxygen at birth, became an international sensation after her first audition was televised on April 11.

Matters came to a head after Boyle lost Saturday night’s final and was reported to have thrown water over a producer backstage. On Sunday, she was seen by a private GP at her hotel before being taken by ambulance to the north London clinic, suffering from “emotional exhaustion”.

Ofcom, the media watchdog, has received a number of complaints about Boyle’s participation in the show. John Whittingdale MP, chairman of the Commons culture, media and sport committee, said the programme-makers had questions to answer about their duty of care to such a vulnerable contestant.

Entire article:
Susan Boyle: Makers of Britain’s Got Talent facing questions over her care

http://www.inclusiondaily.com/news/2009/red/0601f.htm
Related:
Opinion: Susan Boyle Should be Given Accommodation for Her Disabilities (Digital Journal)
http://www.digitaljournal.com/article/273343
The media can’t diagnose Susan Boyle – and we shouldn’t try (The Guardian)
http://www.inclusiondaily.com/news/2009/red/0601h.htm
Susan Boyle fairy tale sours as she enters clinic (Associated Press)
http://www.inclusiondaily.com/news/2009/red/0601g.htm

Under Fire

Los Angeles

By Andrea Scarpino

I would like to write about love. Instead—

This weekend, Dr. George Tiller, one of the only doctors in the country who performed late-term abortions, was murdered (presumably by an anti-choice activist) in his church. In his place of worship. Tiller suffered decades of violence as a result of his commitment to women’s health and performing legal medical procedures, including a prior shooting, a bombing at his clinic and vandalism. He also suffered decades of legal abuse, fighting lawsuits brought against him by abortion opponents. I would have to imagine he also suffered decades of emotional abuse and stress. He was a father. A grandfather.

I am a longtime activist. I’ve walked the perimeters of women’s health clinics when they were under attack from anti-choice protestors. I’ve escorted women through picket lines so that they could keep their appointments inside the clinic. I haven’t done as much as I could have to protect women’s right to choose an abortion, but I’ve done enough to have had many hours of contact with people who disagree with abortion. And I’ve never seen as much hatred and vitriol from anyone—anti-American organizations included—as I’ve seen from certain factions of the anti-choice movement.

Whether or not you agree with abortion, whether or not you think it’s murder, whether or not you grapple with some of its troubling implications, such as its use to choose a baby without disability or with the “right” sex, whether or not—I would hope we could agree that murdering doctors in their place of worship, a place that is supposed to be holy and kind and full of God’s love, is the opposite of supporting life. The opposite of love.

I didn’t know Dr. Tiller and I don’t know why he chose to continue his practice even through decades of abuse and violence. But I do know that hatred cannot be allowed to win this battle. His murder cannot be his legacy. Instead, we must remember that he continued his work in the face of hatred, personal hardship and violence. That he refused to let hatred slow him down. That he took incredible personal risk to ensure women had access to a legal medical procedure. That his legacy is the women he helped, his compassion, his dedication, his many kindnesses. That his legacy is love.

 

Andrea Scarpino is the west coast Bureau Chief of POTB. Visit her at: www.andreascarpino.com

Mental Health Institutions and Disability Rights

 

A recent article in Newsweek by Steven Taylor of Syracuse University’s excellent disability studies program highlights the experiences of conscientious objectors during world war II–the “C.O.s” were often housed in mental health facilities and they reported on the squalid conditions they encountered. Taylor’s piece points out the coincidental and aligning features of today’s mental health conditions at many of our nation’s medieval facilities. This excerpt and link are from Inclusion Daily Express:

 

Steven J. Taylor: Conscientious Objectors Of WWII
(Newsweek)
May 29, 2009
SYRACUSE, NEW YORK– [Excerpt] “Mental Hospitals Are Again Under Fire” read an editorial describing critiques of state institutions for people with psychiatric, developmental, and other disabilities. It was published in a leading mental health journal in 1946. It was written in response to a long series of exposés of state institutions across the country. The editorial acknowledged that the psychiatric establishment had tolerated squalid conditions and brutality at the nation’s institutions for too long. The exposés had been brought about through the efforts of young conscientious objectors (COs) during what is widely regarded as America’s “good war.”

The editorial could have been written yesterday. On May 17, a group of self-described mental health clients and psychiatric survivors staged a rally at the annual meeting of the American Psychiatric Association in San Francisco protesting medical coercion and forced treatment. Ninety-nine disability rights activists were arrested at a Capitol Hill protest on April 28 urging passage of federal legislation guaranteeing the right to receive services in the community rather than nursing homes and other institutions. Groups around the country have endorsed the right to community living for people with intellectual and developmental disabilities.

Today’s struggles give us a chance to recall the heroic works of the conscientious objectors of World War II. About 12,000 men performed civilian public service as an alternative to serving in the military during that war. Initially, they labored at forest, park, and soil conservation camps located in remote areas. Eventually, the Selective Service approved the establishment of “detached” units at which COs served as human guinea pigs in medical experiments, worked on public health projects in the rural south, and performed other forms of service. Approximately 3,000 men were assigned to work at mental hospitals and training schools that faced severe labor shortages during the war.

Entire article:
Conscientious Objectors of WWII

http://www.inclusiondaily.com/news/2009/red/0529d.htm

Of Snapshots & Pinch and Ouch

The photo above was taken by the University of Iowa and like most images of blind persons you will discern if you look closely that I am in effect looking at nothing. I’m doing a good job of it. This is because I am a poet and as Wallace Stevens once famously said, poets are concerned with “the nothing that is not there and the nothing that is.” I am looking at the nothing that “is” and with all due respect to Bill Clinton, there is really only one meaning to “is” and its a transitive meaning–or to put the matter more directly: even a blind person knows that not seeing is a form of seeing. I am seeing expectations and ideas. All ideas are “in vitro” and they are “the nothing that is” and I am about to become the father of an idea in this photo. 

Go find a family snapshot–the one where you have those red eyes as you stare at your birthday cake back in 1965. You are about to become the father or mother of an idea. Your face has a wilful suspension about its features, a matter that’s hard to describe but there it is. You are captured in a moment of belief in possibilities. You are temporarily freed from disappointments. You think the future might be better than the past even if the past is nothing more than life as it was lived just five minutes ago.

Five minutes ago you were playing a game called “pinch and ouch” with your cousin and it wasn’t going so well. Or perhaps (as in the photo above) you were a grown up in the photograph and accordingly you were having a stupid meeting five minutes ago and that meeting was entitled “pinch and ouch” and you know darned well that the secret of enduring such moments has to do with the preservation of the soul. And now someone has taken a photo of you and Lo! you still believe in something though it can’t be seen exactly. The articles of belief are always inexact and rich like flying horses and bread that floats on the water and doors that open in mid air.

Pinch and ouch is behind you. Just look.

S.K.

Arguing with Kurt Vonnegut Jr.

Years ago (precisely 23) I heard Kurt Vonnegut Jr. give a talk in which he suggested that there were only three kinds of plots for a story: the first, he said, involved a person of great success or good fortune who steps on a cosmic banana peel and falls horribly into tragic misery; the second was totally the reverse–the “Cinderella” plot wherein a “wretch” gains good fortune. The last was a yo-yo affair in which the main character goes up and down and down and up–with lots of variants.  

Although I adore Mr. Vonnegut’s work and treasure his memory I think no one should wholly believe this, especially if you plan on writing creative prose. Plot may be materially limited to the scenarios above but a great piece of writing isn’t driven by plot any more than your car is driven by its tires. In short: plot is simply the incidental journey. Or to put this another way: the frame of the story is the thing that matters.

This is especially true in the fourth genre known as creative nonfiction. The non-fictionist has to write about things that have happened either to the writer or to other people. Sometimes he or she must write about the globe and its hurricanes or about nations afflicted by war. Whatever the subject the thing that matters is what the writer makes of the incidents and not the incidents themselves. In the writing trade this is called dramatic or comic irony. What does the narrator know “now” as opposed to yesterday or a decade ago or even ten minutes ago?  The cultivation of this irony is the literary variant of what Daniel Goleman has called “emotional intelligence”. It is a tricky craft. Done poorly it sounds like Dorothy at the end of “The Wizard of Oz” who tells us she’s learned never to search for happiness beyond her own backyard. Done correctly the voice of the writer assumes a quiet and confident quality–a thing that is often delicate and emotionally quiescent.

Here is a lovely example of the technique from Christopher Buckley’s moving memoir “Losing Mum and Pup”–an autobiographical treatment of his famous parents’ complex marriage and their final challenging years. Its a book that many with ageing parents will take to heart and for those of us who have lost our parents its a superb paradigm of  narrative quiescence to say the least. In sum: all too often there is no good or bad fortune in real life save what we imagine in our times alone. I’ll end with Christopher Buckley: 

 

“Yesterday, I was driving behind a belchy city bus on the way back from the grocery store and suddenly found myself thinking (not for the first time) about whether Pup is in heaven. He spent so much of his life on his knees in church, so much of his life doing the right thing by so many people, a million acts of generosity. I’m–I shouldn’t use the word–dying of curiosity: How did it turn out, Pup? Were you right after all? Is there a heaven? Is Mum there with you? (Grumbling, almost certainly, about the “inedible food.”) And if there is a heaven and you are in it, are you thinking, Poor Christo –he’s not going to make it. And is Mum saying, Bill, you have got to speak to that absurd creature at the Gates and tell him he’s got to admit Christopher. It’s too ridiculous for words.”

“Even in my dreams, they’re looking after me. So perhaps one is never really an orphan after all.”  

 

S.K.

My Rorschach, My Bird

Thirty years ago when I was in college we talked about Dr. Rorschach’s famous test. Our professor held ink blots printed on card stock. He resembled someone trying to sell magazine subscriptions. “What do you see?” he said, as if the mystery was deep, so deep that no singular mortal could furnish even a weak answer.

Ah but we were the last students of “the sixties” and accordingly we were by turns truculent and irreverent. One guy shouted that the figure before us looked like shit. “We all know its shit,” he said. “Freud said everything’s shit: money is shit, death is shit. So its just shit.”

We laughed. The professor laughed. He was kind of hip. He was an ageing athlete. “Okay,” he said. “Its shit. But what kind of shit?”

“Well,” said a woman who was famous for stealing the U.S. flag from the college’s flag pole, often in broad daylight. “Its like the shit of Mad King George III–we’re just peering into a 20th century version of the chamber pot.”

That pretty well ended the discussion. The professor became self-consciously engaged in defending 20th century psychology and back in those days if you were over 30 and forced to defend something you were toast. Those were uncomplicated times. 

We were amateur phenomenologists back then.

But I took a walk this morning with my guide dog Nira. As I said yesterday my left eye has been restored from total blindness to a simulacrum of sight and as we strolled down the sidewalk birds were rising out of the grass –birds that were difficult to identify and which I may never be able to name–birds that flew like red and black ink blots and rose and rose before us as we went. 

Unnamed though they might be, the flickering of wings gave up small sparks of reflected sunlight.  One incognito bird was half gold, half the green of the tropics before she vanished in the branches of a sycamore.

I laughed then. Thought of Rorschach. Thought of  the professor now dead who had hoped to teach us that some shit is worth something more than casual analysis.

“Those bird, NIra,” I said, “those birds are some lively, psychedelic shit.”

 

S.K.